Raising humans

So excited to go grocery shopping!
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I have been so on fire about work lately and just got back from teaching a yoga retreat that we are super low on food. Glad the kids are excited because it’s going to be a long market run.
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Here is one of my FAVORITE parenting quotes: ...
And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children."
And he said:
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as he loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable. #khalilgibran

Loving who you are while you are improving!

I have heard so many times either someone say they are not into personal development and have no interest changing themselves because they like who they are.
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I have heard people make assumptions that I don’t like who I am because I am into personal transformation.
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If you love where you are in life that is awesome!
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That is something I hand worked on a lot the past 10 years. Now mor...e days then not I really do love the person I am!.
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That said. I never want to stop growing! I never want to stop learning! Learning how to Love move and without needing anything back in return. I never want to stop learning to more patient, kind, less judgmental...
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So yes. I am all about self love! Self worth! Self acceptance! Body positive!
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I love where I am in the moment, in the messy reality of my life and potty training😂 (most of the time) however I am also loving the journey of transformation, by showing up consistently in little ways everyday so I can be the best human I can be. Hopefully by continuing to grow my soul, and uncover my true essence I can help make the world a better place.
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That’s something my dad as always taught me “how are you going to make the world a better place Kim?” one of my answers is👉 by doing my own healing, I can help others heal and in healing I can show up kinder and more useful. .

Your MIND

Our mind is a beautiful and a mysterious tool!
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We can choose to learn how to use this tool to make our experience of life more enjoyable.
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Try this. Tell yourself “today is going to be a bad day” notice what happens, maybe you notice it’s cold, you remember how much work you have, you remember someone you have a resentment toward...
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Now try this. Tell yourself “today is going to be awesome!” Notice what happens. You see something pretty, you breath into your body and feel alive and vibrant, you think of something fun you are looking forward to today!
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How are you going to use your mind to shape a better reality for yourself and others today?
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“The mind is it’s own place and in itself, can make a heaven out of hell or a hell out of heaven” John Milton

Your SOUL

I love this teaching of going inside to connect to your beautiful soul!
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For so many years I thought if I could get my outsides just right it would change how I felt on the inside. Wronggg!
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It’s by turning into the insides ➡️Seeing the false beliefs and the limiting-self-defeating view points. Doing the work to clean the mirror of my heart so I could better see the beauty and love always radiating out of my soul! ...
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This is our job as humans. To clear our heart. To see, feel and give love more freely!
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There is a very precious teaching in yoga called The Three Malas. In this case mala being a "cloak" or a "veil" rather than mala like the bead.
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These veils are like coverings which conceal our true nature, like a floor which collects dust bunnies, the malas collect on our consciousness. Yet, underneath it the floor can be "swiffered", the covering of the dust bunnies can be removed.
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Yoga is the swiffer for your heart.
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Dust bunnies are going to accumulate just by the nature of you being alive. Every time we forget how miraculous we actually are, more dust bunnies arrive. Life is just that way, we forget. And shit happens. We get hurt.
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It is normal to forget!And each time you remember, you grow, you expand, you become even more of yourself.
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There are three malas: one that cultivates low self esteem, one that cultivates a feeling of helplessness and one that cultivates worry
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If you are interested swiffering I am leading a online three week course “Uncover your true self”. 

No more SHAME

Is shame something you focus on in yourself or in your parenting? I would love to hear from you about your personal relationship with shame.
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The topic of shame is something I am very passionate about after realizing how much my own shame talk contributed to my low self esteem and feelings of self worth.
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Now I do not use shame on myself or others! Shame talk is not allowed in our house! I try my best to keep my kids from feeling shame. Guilt yes!! But shame no!! I never ...want them to doubt there goodness or self worth!
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Do you know the difference between shame and guilt. Although they may seem similar, shame is highly correlated with addiction, depression, and aggression. Where guilt is connected to empathy and understanding and motivation.
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Shame= you make a mistake + “I am bad” = “I am a mistake”
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Gulit= you make a mistake + “I did something bad” = “I made a mistake”
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Shame erodes our courage and fuels disengagement. Guilt motivates us to take positive action to align with our values.
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I encourage you to look for shame and guilt. Do you ever drop something and say or think “I am
Stupid, I can’t believe I didn’t that!” That’s shame! When I started noticing this I was amazing how much shame talk I saw in my head and all around me.
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For example. Someone saw Violet (my 1.5 year old daughter) pick her nose and said “nobody wants to see that”. To me that sounded like shame. Instead of saying maybe there is a more appropriate place to do that. Or do you need a tissue? Or remember she is 1!
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Another example. When I started paying attention to this I noticed I shamed my husband when we would argue. I made him feel like he wasn’t worthy. When what I should have been doing was maybe laying on a little guilt. But never ever shame! I never want to shame others or be shamed!
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We are all innately, unique, awesome, and WORTHY! yes. We make mistakes. But we are not those mistakes. Can we use those mistakes to help us improve in the future. To motivate us to take positive action. Instead of shame ourself and live in fear that we are unworthy and disempower us!
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“I am worthy” “I am good” are some of my favorite affirmations.
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